So, I spend a lot of my time working with High School students. And there is one particular issue which seems to bridge cultural, ethnic, and even social lines with High Schoolers. They are ALL looking for Mr. or Mrs RIGHT! Even though there are a thousand other things which could (and should) consume their minds, this is the one issue which is synonymous to them all. So, if you are a high school student, or are the parent of one, or just a desperate 27 year old, allow me to take the next few posts this week and share some insight I’ve gathered after nearly a decade of working with students.
Let’s back up to where this concept began, in the Garden of Eden. Adam found himself doing the same thing many of our high schoolers and even young adults do. The scripture says he was looking for a SUITABLE helpmate. PAUSE: If Adam were looking for a suitable helpmate, that means there were helpmates available that were NOT suitable (i.e, the ANIMALS!). Dating Principle #1: Just because someone is AVAILABLE TO you, doesn’t mean they are RIGHT FOR you.
How do you define suitable? If you don’t know the answer to that, you don’t know what it is you’re searching for. You’re just searching for something, and if your simply searching for something, you’ll wind up with anything! Have you taken the time to think through a job description of a SUITABLE mate for you?
If not, you’ll end up like Adam, just searching through the animals. Ladies, there are a lot of dogs out there as possibilities. Fellas, let me just tell you, there are some crafty snake-women out there too. Trust me, I’ve dated a couple, and still have the fang marks to prove it. My point is, you may be searching through the whole flippin ANIMAL kingdom looking for Mr. or Mrs. Right, experiencing heartbreak after heartbreak, when in reality, you’re just wasting you’re time because you don’t even know what it is you’re looking for!
I could give you some good things to look for in a SUITABLE mate (and I will), but first, I want you to think through what it is you are looking for in your future spouse. Are they the characteristics which would make them SUITABLE for you?
More on this subject tomorrow!